In addition to learning to love, I believe another goal of therapy is discovering gratitude. Not “shut up and put up with it” gratitude, but…

If a therapist were to say, for example, “My father died ten years ago,” that apparently simple fact could have complex and unpredictable effects on…

Anger is one of our four primary emotions – joy, sadness, fear, anger. Yet it is spoken of as if it’s absence is acceptable –…

The answer I prefer to this question is: that therapy is about learning to love. Not romantic love, but the slow, perhaps effortful movement from…

“Avoidant” is commonly used to describe someone who steers clear of closeness, intimacy, exposure, the messiness of relationships. That’s accurate enough as a behavioural description.…

Something I see often in the consulting room is a particular kind of hope. A relentless hope, as psychoanalyst Martha Stark puts it. It’s the…

Is it possible to change? Yes. But paradoxically, you change not by attempting to become someone else, but by becoming more yourself. A concept in…

Many clients have a quiet but deeply held belief: I’m not good enough. Where does it come from? Almost universally, this originates in childhood. When…